food for thought

difficult people come and they go in our lives
To view the most difficult person you know and see them for what they really are is the easy part, truly accepting them for who they are is the hard part.
It was taught to me this way:
Always remember that for every difficult person that comes into our life we create understanding whether we accept it or not.

to view each person as if you were looking into a mirror can bring the problem that keeps resurfacing over and over again to a halt.
that is of course if that is what you want.
i say that only because if you don't want it to stop, i mean the chaos (and believe me we all do this to ourselves).
we create a situation of chaos, because that is all it is, it's not a problem.
it only becomes a problem when we allow it to be a problem.
you see most people who go from one chaotic situation to the next are very comfortable with the chaos of uncertainty. they look forward to the next event in there life because without it they feel they would have no existence.
so
to see each person as a mirror of yourself allows you to fix what is wrong in you so that you can once again have peace.
example: let's say there is someone in your life that is very critical of your every move.
now is the time to look very closely at your own life and ask and answer
honestly if you are critical of yourself in anyway shape or form.
when you admit to yourself that yes you are very critical of yourself,
now you must ask yourself why am I critical of myself, who made me believe
that i am the way i am.
was it taught to you, was it ingrained in you, and the person who taught you
how to be this way are they too very critical of themselves or only those around
them.
were not looking to put blame on anyone, that includes ourselves what we are looking for is to bring UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTANCE. once we bring understanding than only can we be accepting of our own mistakes, because it's so much easier to blame the other person than ourselves.
so yes! you will always be wrong in the light of others, but you will always be right in the light of GOD.
so ACCEPTANCE is the key to solving the chaos of others. take their power to hurt you away by accepting what they say. eventually the chaos they insist on creating for you will disappear because it will no longer be fun for them to create chaos when you put out the fire as soon as it begins.
it's like saying to the stranger: wow, you look really bad today, are you sick or something?
your response: NOPE, i feel great. how are you feeling today?
you just bounced back the chaos to them.